~ God Always Walks With You ~

A time comes in your life when you finally get it.... when in the ~

midst of your fears and insanity you stop dead in your tracks and

somewhere the little voice in your head cries out                          ~ ENOUGH!!!~

Enough fighting  and crying and struggling and holding on.~is time to sit down and have a heart to heart with God ~

He waits for us ~ He wants to hear ~

Like a child quieting down after a blind tantrum, your sobs begin to subside,~

you shudder once or twice,~

you blink back your tears~

through a mantle of wet lashes and ~

you begin to look at the world through new eyes.

This is your awakening ~

This is what you prayed for.

You realize it is time to stop hoping and waiting for something to change or for happiness,

safety, and security to come galloping over the next horizon ~that you must have faith and trust ~

In "Our Father" ~

You come to terms with the fact that PrinceCharming

~ is a fairytale,~ and you are no ~ Cinderella, and that in the real world, there aren't always going to be fairytale endings (or beginnings for that matter) and that any guarantee of "happily ever after" must begin with you.  And in this process, a sense of serenity is born of acceptance.

You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect  ~

and that not everyone will always love, appreciate, or approve of who or what you are...and that's OK  ~

They are entitled to their own views and opinions.

And you learn the importance of loving ~

and championing yourself and in the process a sense of new

found confidence is born of self approval.

You stop blaming other people for the things they did to you, or

didn't do, and you learn that the only thing you can really count on

is the unexpected.  You learn that people don't always say what

they mean, or mean what they say, and that not everyone will

always be there for you and that it's not always about you.

So, you learn to stand on your own two feet and to take care

of yourself, and in the process a sense of safety and security

is born of self reliance.

You stop judging and pointing fingers ~

and you begin to accept people as they are,

at face value, and overlook their shortcomings

and human frailties and ~

in the process a sense of peace and

          ~ contentment is born of forgiveness. ~

You realize that much of the way you view yourself,

and theworld around you, is the result of all the messages and opinions ~

that have been ingrained into your psyche from birth.  And you begin to sift through all that you've been fed about how youshould behave, look, dress, how much you should weigh, whoyou should associate with, what you should drive,where youshould live, what kind of job you should have, who you shouldmarry, expectations, or what you owe your parents.  You learn to open up to new worlds and different people and other points of view.

And you begin reassessing and redefining who you are

and what you really stand for. 

You learn the difference between wanting and needing and you begin to discard the doctrines and values you've outgrown, or should never have bought into to

begin with and in the process you learn to go with your

instincts and intuition ~ and listen to the whisper from your heart~

You learn that it is truly in giving that we receive and that thereis power and glory in creating and contributing and you stopmaneuvering through life merely as a "consumer" looking for your next fix.

You learn that principles such as honesty and

integrity are not outdated ideals of a bygone era but the mortar that holds together the foundation upon which you

must build a life.

You learn that you don't know everything, nor do you have to,because it is not your job to save the world or teach a pig to sing.

You learn to distinguish between guilt and responsibility and the importance of settingboundaries and learning that it is really OK to say NO. 

You learn that the only cross to bear is the one you

chose to carry and that martyrs get burned at the stake.  Then you learn about love. 

Romantic love and familiar love, how to love, ~

how much to give in love, when to stop giving and walk away.

You learn not to project your needs or feelings into a relationship.

You learn that you will not be more beautiful, more intelligent, more lovable, or more important simply because of a man or woman on your arm and a child who bears your name.  You learn to look at relationships as they really are, not as how you would like them to be.

You stop trying to control people, situations,and outcomes.  You learn that just as peoplegrow older and change, so it is with love.

You learn that you don't have the right to demand love on your terms, just to make you happy.

And you learn that alone does not mean lonely....

You look in the mirror and come to terms with the fact that you will never be a size 5 or a perfect 10 and you stop trying to compete with some fantasy image in your head and agonizing over how you "stack up."

You also stop working so hard at putting your feelings aside,

smoothing things over and ignoring your needs.  You learn that feelings of entitlement are perfectly OK...and that it is your right to want things and to ask for the things you want and need....and that sometimes it is necessary to make demands, provided they are reasonable.

You come to the realization that you deserve to be treated with love, kindness, sensitivity, respect ~

you are asking for nothing more and you will settle for nothing less.

You learn that your body really is a temple and you begin to

care for it and treat it with respect.  You begin eating a balanced diet, drinking more water, and taking more time to exercise and meditate.

You learn that fatigue and worry diminishes the spirit

and creates doubt and fear.  So you take more time to rest and replenish and just as food fuels the body, laughter nourishes the soul.  So you take more time to laugh and play.

You learn, that for the most part, in life you get what you believe you deserve... and that much of life is truly a self fulfilling prophecy.  You learn that anything worth achieving is worth working for and that wishing for something to happen is different from working toward making it happen.  More importantly,you learn that in order to achieve success you need direction,discipline, and perseverance. 

You also learn that no one can do it all alone and that it is OK to risk asking for help.

You learn that the only thing you must fear is the great robber baron of all times....fear itself.

You learn to step right into and through your fears because you know that whatever happens you can handle it...that often the anticipation of something is worse

than the actual event....and that to give in to fear is to give away your right to live your own life on your own terms.  And you learn to fight for your life and not squander it living under a cloud of impending doom. 

You learn that life isn't always fair...sometimes you don't get what you think you deserve....sometimes you get more than you deserved but it all evens out in the end.  Sometimes bad things happen to unsuspecting, good people.

On these occasions you have to try not to personalize things.

You learn that God is not punishing you or failing to answer your prayers.  It's just life happening.

And you learn to deal with evil in its most primal state--the ego.

You learn that negative feelings such as anger, envy, jealousy, and resentment must be understood and redirected or they will suffocate the life out of you and poison the universe that surrounds you.

You learn to admit when you are wrong and to build bridges

instead of walls.  ~

You learn to be thankful and to take comfort ~

in the many simple things that we tend to take for granted,                                     ~ THINGS ~

that millions of people on earth can only dream about; ~ a full

refrigerator, ~ clean water, ~ a soft warm bed, ~

a hot shower ~ things we so easlier, take forgranted ~

Slowly you begin to take responsiblity for yourself by yourself and you make yourself a promise to never betray yourself and never EVER settle for less than your heart's desire. 

You hang a wind chime outside your window so you can listen to the wind.

And you make a point of smiling, to keep trusting, and to stay open to every wonderful possibility that is out there waiting for you to discover it.And finally, with courage in your heart and with God by your side ~

For He always ~ WALKS WITH YOU ~

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